The "Good" in the "Bad".

Most of us are aware of the basic benefits and side effects of general activities in our lives, however, many of us do not have a full grasp of the effect that Things have on us.

So Consider this.

Many people see Television as a Positive, because it helps them Relax, Unwind and Zone Out.

However, Television Encourages a Sedentary Lifestyle, Bombards us with Outside Ideas and can Damage our Eyes.

This is an Example of the "Bad in the Good". So what does it mean to find "The Good in the Bad"?

Well, consider this; Many people see Exercise, Paperwork and Arguments as pretty Bad Things.

Exercise Stresses You Out and Hurts Your Muscles... Right?

Paperwork Reduces Your Energy and makes you Bored... Right?

Arguments Make You Angry and Negative... Right? Well, that isn't All they do.

In Fact, Stress and Pain experienced during Exercise are actually Stress and Pain being Released, From Exercise. For a while, your body and mind will feel Even More Tired while they adjust and release toxins and fats. However, once you Stretch, Jog and Life that Tension out of your body...

1. Your Body Makes More Energy

2. Your Mind Becomes Calmer 3. You Grow Larger Muscles 4. Your Body Makes Use of More Calories

When You Do Paperwork, You Get Tired and Bored, Right? Well, in Fact, Paperwork is something you Need To Do for your business (in most cases). Therefore, seeing it as a "Bad" thing isn't really going to help you. So What Is Good About It? (I don't particularly like it) 1. Records Useful Information for Your Company 2. Records Helpful Customer Data for Service 3. Gets Information Out of Your Brain, Onto Paper 4. Keeps Things Organized for Your Company

So, even though Paperwork is kind of Boring, it is actually very helpful.

Just like this mind set.

Arguments with your Coworkers, Arguments with your Friends, Arguments with your Family. Nobody Wants Them. Especially Not You. You are a Pacifist and a Lover, not a Fighter (or something), so What Do You Do?

Arguments can mean Bad News, if you Anger Someone you Spend a Lot of Time with, that can have Negative Repercussions. If you Give Up your Side in an Argument, Your Opinions May Change, and that may not always be right. If you discuss Politics, Religion or Finances with people, you may find that you have very Conflicting Views, and that you Do Not See Eye To Eye. So What Does This Mean? Well, Arguments are Different than Discussions. If you Discuss Ideas, Events, People, Places, Things, ect... You Are Opening Up A Line Of Thought that May Not Have Been Triggered Naturally in that person. Perhaps They Will Make You Think about Something New as well...

So How do you have an Effective Conversation? One that will leave You, and your Partner, in better standing, and with more knowledge than before?

1. Ask Their Beliefs

Before Stating Your Own Beliefs, Ask The Beliefs of the Person You're Speaking To. Sometimes you will find you may decide not to mention your own specific beliefs, if it seems they will not be received well.

2. Offer Your Beliefs

Tell The Person You're Talking To Your Own Beliefs, Where They Came From and Why You Hold Them To Be True. 3. Make an Effort to Understand Their Beliefs. If you want to, you can also ask Where Their Belief Came From, Why They Believe it or What They Think of Your Belief.

4. Separate Yourself From Your Beliefs

Our Beliefs Are Not Ours. And yet Most of us Don't Believe That! Our Beliefs come from Our Parents, Our Friends, Our Televisions, Our Books, Our Schools, Our Government, Our Religion, Our Environment... However, all of these Beliefs are Prone To Error.

When you Engage in a Conversation about something, detach yourself from the need for the Belief you Currently Have to be Right. It doesn't need to be Right. If it Is Right, that will come out in the end. Consider Other Beliefs as Equal, and let go of the Attachment to your own. This will allow you to See with an Unbiased Opinion.

Think About It.

What is the Likelihood that All of your Beliefs are 100% True? Probably 0. We all have False Beliefs. We just often Choose not to Consider Other Ones.

5. Empathize

Consider the Feelings, Thoughts and Connotations of your Conversational Partner's Beliefs. Maybe Someone Very Dear To Them taught them what they know to be true. It is possible their Religion or Surroundings may differ from what You Know to be True. They Know what They know to be true.

So Who Is Right?

Who is Right doesn't matter. That's Right. It Doesn't Matter Who Is Right. It Matters Who Learns More. If the Person You're Talking To Doesn't Agree, You Can Still Learn a lot from them. Detach yourself from the Need to be Right. You Don't need to be Right. In Fact, you may learn more if you act under the presumption that you are Wrong!

Search Books, The Internet, Wise Mentors, The World and Your Inner Self to see Different Perspectives to the topic. Compare Multiple Views and Form Your Own Conclusion.

"The Good in the Bad"

So What Do We Know?

1. Dealing with Stress Clears Stressful Tasks, allowing us to Concentrate on Other Things and Making Our Emotions Stronger.

2. Pushing Past Pain Releases it from Our Bodies and Minds, allowing us a Higher Pain Tolerance for Physical Pains such as Stretching and Exercise, or Mental Pains such as Reading or Doing Unwanted Tasks and Chores.

3. Discussing Things with People can lead us to Greater Knowledge. Share Views Gently and Empathize with your Conversational Partner to Gain a Better Understanding.

So What Else Is There?

How Do We Find The "Good" in the "Bad"?

Well, there is Good in Everything.

1. Getting Mugged may lead you to Exercise more, to Defend Yourself, which will lead to higher brain and body function, as well as higher self confidence.

2. Suffering the Loss of a Relative or a Pet can give you perspective about the nature of life, and cause you to Appreciate what you Do have more.

3. Breaking Bones a Certain Way can Strengthen Them.

4. Roughing Up Your Hands can Make Them Stronger and Give You Callouses.

5. Pushing Past Confusion and Learning Pains can Allow You to Learn New and Challenging Things.

6. Encountering an Obstacle can Lead to Problem Solving, which is Good for the Mind and may be Useful or Lucrative, depending on the Problem you Solve.

7. Starting a Race in the back makes it Harder to Win, however, having to work more for the win means you have to Push Yourself Harder, meaning you will Make More Gains in your Personal Growth.

8. Growing Up with No or Little Parenting allows people to Develop Their Own Unique Views (Society and Environment, Friends, ect still play an influence).

9. Being Born With Asthma means you will have to Work Harder to Exercise and Be Fit, however, many people would not have to try harder, and therefore would not Develop as much Focus on Fitness and Health.

10. Experiencing Mental Dysfunction (Anxiety, Depression, ect) means you have a Powerful Brain, and can Lead You to Exercise, Nutrition and other Health Solutions, as an Alternative to Cognitive Suffering.

There Are Many "Bad" factors in "Good" Things.

There Are Many "Good" factors in "Bad" Things.

If you Know something is Helpful, Focus on all the Good Things. Focus on the "Good in the Bad". Because you can See "Bad" and "Good" in Everything, but what you Choose to Perceive is Up To You.

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